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indifference ruled not o.k.

Well...in some ways life got easier as a result of tonight's confession, and in other ways it just got a lot harder.

The priest read me the riot act for being a lazy slob and not coming to Mass (to say nothing of confession, Holy Days of Obligation, and slacking on my Easter duties) but I figured I had that coming. Also some chiding for stuff that's between me, my confessor and the Lord. What I wasn't expecting - but should have been, really- was getting called out for indifference toward the ex-wife. I didn't bother explaining that the studied indifference I'd adopted had kept my head from going splat because he was right. It's going to be hard, but I have to forgive her.

I'm sure not going to forget, though. He didn't say anything about that. Too Jesuitical, maybe?


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Mar. 13th, 2010 10:03 pm (UTC)
I think we are seeing a chunk of wisdom from Da Church on this one - in forgiving her
you do NOT have to forget, or otherwise expose yourself to some already proven
mortal and spiritual danger - but you can see the act of "forgiving" as "get this right
and dealt with in your head and DONE with" in your own head.

If you have already done that, then the "forgiving" should be no big difficult thing.
If you have not REALLY achieved this in your head, then Da Church is showing you
the way, and giving you someone to talk to about it too. Direction, and resources,
hard to really ask for a lot more.

And being forgiven might make her head explode - there are often unforeseen
easter eggs in an otherwise rank task.


Mar. 13th, 2010 10:37 pm (UTC)
I don't really know how I feel about it. Going to have to pray about it, think about it, and spend some time talking to a priest and a shrink about it. I do know that doing it because it might make her head explode would be doing it for the wrong reason, Romans 12:20 nothwithstanding.
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