?

Log in

No account? Create an account

Previous Entry | Next Entry

Mary Ortega Trainor, 1932-2008

Mom died yesterday afternoon around 4:15. This came as an unpleasant surprise to Carlos and I; neither one of us were present at the time, and so we didn't find out until a couple of hours later. According to her doctor, the cause was heart failure, probably aggravated by any number of other conditions.

My brother and I are now in the process of sorting through papers and making decisions about things. While Carlos is executor and sole heir -I didn't want anything- he's leaning on me to get some things done since he hates paperwork in all its forms, while I, for my sins, am a somewhat competent bureaucrat. So I spent some time on the phone today calling Arlington, the Bolling AFB chapel office, the VA, and making arrangements as best I could. The only thing that's set (albeit loosely) is that we're not going to inter Mom at Arlington until late September or maybe October; there's currently a five-week backlog, so Carlos and I agreed that putting it off until the fall makes more sense.

More stuff later as we become aware of it.

UPDATE: Thanks to all of you for your kindness and sympathy.

Comments

( 20 comments — Leave a comment )
edwarddain
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:08 pm (UTC)
Best wishes for you and yours at this time.
wombat_socho
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:11 pm (UTC)
Thanks.
onsenmark
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:19 pm (UTC)
Oh, man.

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm praying for you.
tokenfanboy
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:34 pm (UTC)
Sorry for your loss.
fsf_rapier
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:42 pm (UTC)
You have my most sincere condolances.

A lot of well meaning people are going to ask how you are doing. The easiest answer I ever came up with was "as well as can be expected". This let's people know that while you are heartsick and really aren't yourself, you realize that you will be okay eventually.

You will be.

In the meantime, don't hesitate to ask for help if you need anything.
stuckintraffik
Jun. 17th, 2008 07:43 pm (UTC)
A number of vulgraities of the 'aw @#$%' present themselves to my mind, but none of them convey a true sense of regret, nor are they all that appropriate.

If there's anything I can do for you or P, let me know. Lauren and I hope you two are doing okay.
433
Jun. 17th, 2008 08:23 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry, Kevin. Losing a loved one is never easy, and I've certainly lost my share.
michaellee
Jun. 17th, 2008 08:41 pm (UTC)
My sympathies.
therevdrnye
Jun. 17th, 2008 09:37 pm (UTC)
You have my condolences, of course. It's never timely to those left behind.

Talk to you soon.

qob
Jun. 17th, 2008 10:33 pm (UTC)
Never easy. You have my condolences, and my prayers as well.
materia_indigo
Jun. 18th, 2008 01:08 am (UTC)
Kevin, I am very very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
thaadd
Jun. 18th, 2008 01:30 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear this, Kevin. No matter how old you are, it sucks greatly to be without mom.
:(
chocol8fiend
Jun. 18th, 2008 02:31 am (UTC)
Sorry to hear that
revolutionaryjo
Jun. 18th, 2008 03:02 am (UTC)
My condolences to you and the rest of your family.
danae
Jun. 18th, 2008 04:53 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear the news
Losing a parent is always difficult
dejana
Jun. 18th, 2008 05:00 am (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear about your mom.
huladavid
Jun. 24th, 2008 11:24 pm (UTC)
Sorry to hear this. I'll pass the info on to brother Jeff.

I'd say e-mail me if you need anything, but I'll be out of "inter-touch' through at least the 29th. If there's anything afterwards, lemme know.
wombat_socho
Jun. 25th, 2008 01:38 am (UTC)
Nothing much until the interment, thanks.
jolest
Jun. 25th, 2008 03:38 am (UTC)
Much sympathy to you and P from JM and myself. I've been there. Right now I can only encourage you to "Be good to yourself and those you care about.".

If we can do anything from here to help, let us know.
wombat_socho
Jun. 25th, 2008 12:24 pm (UTC)
Thanks. Doing the best I can...
( 20 comments — Leave a comment )

Profile

wombat
wombat_socho
wombat_socho

Latest Month

July 2019
S M T W T F S
 123456
78910111213
14151617181920
21222324252627
28293031   
Powered by LiveJournal.com
Designed by Lilia Ahner