She's had to learn to draw boundaries on what she writes, to avoid hurting loved ones. An "aching and bleeding diatribe" she posted a few years ago against her parents' faith, Mormonism, alienated them so badly that "it was like a bomb had gone off in my family," she says. "My dad didn't speak to me for several months, and my mom was devastated." She took down the posts, thinking, "OK, this is a little bit more powerful than I'd thought it would be," she says.
She and her parents have since reconciled, but now, "I have strict boundaries in my head," she says. "I'm not going to write anything about my family that I wouldn't say to them in real life, in front of other people." Also, "a lot goes on in our marriage that I will never write about," including her and her husband's sex life, she adds.
Yeah. That makes a lot of sense to me, mainly because that's the rule I've tried to follow here on my LJ, and not just about family. Fortunately for me, I've always been the sort of guy who generally enjoys delivering bad news to people -a hangover from my days in MI, no doubt- so I haven't had to pull too many punches here. The handful of posts I've changed to friends-only have been at the request of other people who quite reasonably were concerned that what I wrote might screw them up in their dealings with third parties who don't normally read this but might have been provoked to do so by something intemperate I wrote. Since people like that have a nasty tendency to take their frustrations out on other people, better to keep my friends out of the line of fire and take things private or semi-private.
Also, publicly discussing my sex life is right out. I've never indulged in locker room talk since I think sex is a private affair (so to speak) and none of y'alls' business. Not that you wanted those images in your head anyway, right?
God knows how the interview this morning went. The company had a number of accounting vacancies posted, so I'm moderately hopeful but not overly so.